My ex-husband and I are embarking on the slow process of reconciliation. We were married for 4 years and 6 days. As of today, we have been divorced for 3 years, 6 months, and 16 days. We have two young children together, and he has an older son from a previous relationship. This has been a major decision effecting those we love most.
I am a nerd. There, I said it. I may not have all the answers, but you can bet your butt that I’ll find some. My favorite resource is the library, closely followed by the internet. When searching for information about how to restore my marriage, Mr. Dewey directed me to approximately 306 on the shelf. But I didn’t find what I was looking for. There were books on children and divorce, getting used to being single again, sex and marriage, dating, and other topics that I’m sure would be helpful to someone, just not me. The only redeeming book I found was by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I should tell you now, I have always been pretty liberal in my beliefs. If you don’t know who Dr. Laura is, she is a right-wing conservative talk show host and counselor. Even holding the book left a bitter taste in my mouth, but I am committed to repairing my family, so I thought, what the hey, I’ll give it a try. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands was by far the most help I found at the library. I highly recommend it, as it was highly informative yet straight-forward and to the point.
My internet search mostly provided me with links that I could follow to spend $39.95 in order to learn the secrets of success. Pass. I also discovered many sites that led to what I can only call cry baby forums. These basically consisted of women complaining about their exes or whining because said exes left. Pass again. The only remotely applicable sites instructed me in Christian principles of marriage.
Disclaimer:
- I am a Christian
- I fully believe that prayer and a good relationship with God are important
- BUT THESE STILL DIDN’T ADDRESS MY SPECIFIC SITUATION!!
Upon further surfing, I discovered the Love Dare. Again, these are written from a Biblical standpoint. I think however, that the dares within are worth noting. I am going to do my best to revise these to a secular application so that they can be of help to a wider audience. Look for them in my next post!
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